Decision Obsession

So what are good decisions? I guess that in order to answer that question we got to look at who determines what good decisions are. So we basically break them down into two groups, decisions that are self-satisfying and decisions that are made to satisfy, please or meet the expectations of a larger number of people. For example, a guy randomly bumps into a girl who’s walking home with her groceries then they all spill to the ground before he realizes what happens. When he looks up he finds himself staring into the most angelical eyes he’s seen in his adult life, she’s startled, but not upset. He offers to walk her home, she says it’s ok, there’s no need, he insists. She thinks for a second and analyzes her sixth sense, should I let him help me? Her sixth sense does not raise any alarms so she says ok. He walks her home carrying her groceries, doing small talk, the walk is not very far and he notices that she lives two buildings across from him but does not say anything, he feels it would make her too uncomfortable. They get to her apartment and she thanks him, takes her groceries and goes in closing the door behind her. He stands there for another second knowing no matter how close he is to her right now an opportunity had just slipped away. Two nights later as he’s walking home he notices that there’s a building on fire, and it’s the girl’s building (yeah, that’s right, just like a movie). He looks around to see if he sees the girl with the groceries in the crowd that had gathered but he does not. He looks up and from his calculations the fire seems to be on the girl’s floor. Maybe she’s trapped he thinks. No time to think, he goes to one of the parked fire trucks, takes one of the capes and a hat and runs into the building. He runs up the stairs to her floor, fire and smoke surround him but he pushes on until he’s a her door. He yells out to her, she says she’s there. He asks if she’s all right, she says yeah, he pushes the door open and she’s standing there. He offers his hand and she takes it and they start the walk back to ground floor. Fire and smoke surround them but they keep moving. They get to the ground, coughing and catching their breath, she looks at him and asks him if he’s a fireman, and he says no, “I was just around”. Two days later they go on their first date, and everybody is happy for them. The hero who saved the girl is now going out with her, the papers are ecstatic, the hero deserves the best. But his decision was not made to be a hero, he just wanted her number. Now in this case his decision was self-satisfying, but it pleased the expectations of the masses, the hero gets the reward. So what kind of decisions are we making on a daily or lifetime basis? Are we satisfying our own desires, trying reach our own vision of ourselves, or are we making decisions based on what we think the masses or society expect from us? Societies are built on the dreams of individuals. If we give up our own vision to follow somebody else’s, is that really fair to ourselves? Is that really fair to society? Every success experienced in the history of the world was built on multiple failures, some extremely hard to surpass. So what are we afraid of? No idea is of any value if we’re not willing to persevere for it. That’s all I got… for now